All of Life is in Polarity

All of Life is in Polarity
By Alisa Battaglia

All of life is in polarity-that is, in relationship to its opposite or polar energy and our level of connectivity in relation to it. For instance, our relationship in opposition to the social structures set into place. The disconnection or division comes from having to labor our living at the expense of our creative soul urge. Life demands that we work and pay taxes for our keep and yet this causes a drain on our life force creating exhaustion, dis-ease and aberrations. The balance, of course, between the two polarities would be to find right livelihood…in so many terms, to “Live our Bliss.”

The second opposition that we struggle with is our relationship to our environment. With the first opposition in concretization, there is little time for connection with nature outside office buildings. In cars, we come and go to the workplace, the mall, grocery stores and so on. We pass by what is left of nature around us. We are disconnected because there is no real connection to the environment. This lack of connectivity to nature causes us to disengage from vital life preserving forces that through connection would align us by default to the greater rhythm of our planetary body and the Kosmic circuit in which it resides. Harmonizing with nature whether by walking through a park, gardening, or even honoring the moons monthly cycles puts us in touch with the greater rhythm that has become so elusive in our busy lives.

The polarity continues as we move within because what we see that is not right in society is actually a reflection of the collective mindset in a particular area. This points us in the direction of looking at that which is not right within us. Inner conflict runs between extremes. On one end of the polarity spectrum there is total withdrawal expressed as narcissism in the personality complex. The narcissistic defense mechanism is one that detaches emotions from intimate forms of connectivity with a need to control life, people and circumstances. Functioning from the head, the focus is most often on material gain or position while the emotions are withdrawn from the needs of self and others. Sensitivity and inner sight of the authentic nature is lost and life is superficial and myopic. However, for every control freak there is a counterpart to play out the role of victimhood or supplicant. This is best expressed in the co-dependent and addictive mindset whose intense emotional grasping to things, people and circumstances causes them to lose sight of their deepest needs and desires as a human being. Again with the focus powered onto the object of ones attention-things, people, drugs and alcohol, money and gambling, clothes and glamour, thoughts, and so on, the fulfillment of the immediate need causes the mind to skim only the surface of self, others and life. Both expressions, one overly mental and one emotional, produce disjointed human beings. When time is not taken to examine what is right and not right within us, we live miserable, lonely and loveless lives. Passion for life’s gifts, mysteries or energy to investigate them is lost, as life energy is disconnected from the Kosmos, nature and self…and slowly the spirit within is asphyxiated from lack of connection to the wellspring of life. The spirit within is the nexus of our existence – it is the force that animates our body, the Promethian Spark that gives life and substance to an otherwise lifeless body.

The next polarity and perhaps the most vital, as it moves to the very core of our existence is between the human being in relation to spirit – the polarity between resistance to living our inner light and fully embracing our divinity. The question is “Who are you in relationship to this borrowed body whose name you call yourself?” “Are you the body or the dweller within the body?” This apparent disconnection to the source of our being is the very peril that binds us from liberation. Our mental constraints take the lead setting parameters when the soul is timeless and without human boundary. The soul’s limitless space reflects the potential of our human capacity. Our connection to the source of our divinity is the stuff that all of life is made. In this space or void, the boundaryless fairway of existence is the opposite spectrum of our human struggle – the brain that divides, bifurcates, separates and sections off with an attachment to ways of perceiving and living. Finally, the polarity of the soul in relation to Spirit – between the souls urge to immerse back into Sources spiraling well of energy as One Life or attachment to the souls sheath.

In all these levels of connectivity and separateness are layers and layers of differentiation between them. The balance point always meets at the neutral middle – the center path of heart where there is acceptance in the reflection of the other. It is the point of light within us that is wise, creative, joyful and loving. This sacred point of light that is the true self within is the initiator between extremes, the conjoiner of opposites – the multitude of polarities that exists on this plane. When we arise from the heart of neutrality, the true center of reality we act as the center point between Heaven and Earth.

 

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The Illusion of Fear and Addiction~ the Psyche of Limitation

The Illusion of Fear and Addiction~ the Psyche of Limitation

Fear has many faces, love has one”~Alisa Battaglia

By Alisa Battaglia, B.D., C. H.T., EFT, TH

FEAR occurs in the emotional realm of human consciousness. It is the dominant emotional energy permeating our planet at present time whose distortion, aggression and violence are all negative limitations implanted in the feeling-thought complex of which emotion is derived.  While this defensive mindset is no exception, it functions as a survival mechanism that proves to be suicidal operating in an exploitive mode of consciousness. Its presence is capable of reducing human beings into timid and frightened automatons insufficient to cope with life’s situations and stupefied by the problems of existence. Fear is the greatest enemy of self-understanding and the basic element that supports an addictive and compulsive mindset expressed in a myriad of unconstructive ways within our own lives and within our global paradigm.

Fear is the primary response that holds captive the human reigned by the five senses of the instinctual life from evolving towards the higher grades of intellectual and intuitive consciousness. Understanding the basis of psychological fear will help us meet with our instinctual fear nature that is part of our primal brains genetic DNA inherited from ancient human memory of past pain and grievances. The primal part of the brain that we have long inherited from animals in our human evolution whose biological conditioning in nature is based upon the ignorance of Universal Law and forces of nature and terror of the dark. It is the part of us reactive to threat that is meant to protect us and lend access to courage and directed will to carry out achievements that might normally have been impossible. However, when the stream of life is centered on this basic level it becomes dominated by the emotional responses of survival that protects and governs most of our habits.

Four psychological fears are borne out of the instincts for self-preservation. The sex instinct, which has its roots in the instinct of self-preservation, guarantees the progenitor of the species and abandons the psychological fear of loneliness of being unmated. The herd instinct governs us toward family and community, which abandon our fear of isolation. From the instinct of self-assertion we work to sustain our self and family from fear of death, victimhood or failure.  The instinct to enquire drives us forward to gain the depths of knowledge through experience and education for fear of not knowing or of being left behind. The instinctual survivalist fear package is a part of our DNA and can never be rid of, as it provides the vital foundation for all other facets of our development. We can, however, develop the necessary tools that will advance us in its integration within the gradient stages of evolving consciousness.

In order to extend beyond the initial stages of these instinctual fear vibrations that hold dominion over the non-mental animal kingdom and the emotionally reactive unthinking persons, we must be able to ascertain the dynamics that form the dysfunctional interplay between physical fear and psychological fear. In recognition of our deeply rooted psychological fears interconnected with our basic instinctual responses we can begin to examine the network of escapes, habits and addictions we have developed to pacify them. Unlike animals, the roots of psychological fear is a conditioned human response potently increased through the power of the mind and aggravated through the perpetuation of memory that draws upon accumulated experience, knowledge, tradition and time that creates the background from which we react. The combined effort of our conditionings and reliance of our instinctual senses to guide us through the everyday world makes us highly sensitive and uneasy to disarm.  Often, even something slight or someone instigating this indwelling impulse will trigger the primal guard whose relief of tension is an aggressive or violent response from that slight perturbation. This uncontrolled impulse is responsible for the reckless aggressive drivers that we experience on our highways everyday and for the jealous acts of passion that engage a protective and dominant response to threats against what we consider “our property.”

To grasp the basic nature of the personality governed first by instinct is to know that any situation whose actions are associated with defeat or borne of opposition than allowance, the lower mind structure will perceive it as a threat and will struggle to dominate. The power to dominate again is easily seen in an aggressive driver on a highway that speeds up and challenges passage irked by a slowing vehicle to change a lane or in the exit of the ramp. The struggle between functioning within our lower responses with the more evolved brain can be observed in the over-sensitized person whose emotional response pattern is towards hysteria, the energy is of a nervous quality with thoughts that run in an effusive manner and their dreams and visions are expanded filled with fear. The veneer for such an emotional response pattern would naturally be one of the extreme opposite of altercation whose defense mechanism is meant to keep any altercation from its core.

When we feel unsure the instinct of self-assertion clutches tightly for its survival and automates defensiveness. How often have we felt defensive by some looming insecurity or assassinated our characters or others because of it? If we did not get hooked into a defensive posture we observed two things. First, our instinctual need to take control by some form of response or action by striving for certainty of attitude and then to dominate it, which would be the directive power of the will upon another or plainly, manipulation by turning the situation around in blame or verbal abuse, or we would walk away defensively easily disguised. We can easily observe this emotional pattern in relationships whose unconscious instinctual fear attachment is expressed through jealousy. Jealousy is stirred into action when attention is moved away from us.  The response is assertiveness that seeks power over a loved one or friend as protectiveness through domination and pride of possession. Jealousy is a reaction for fear of loss that plugs into the illusion of security and whose distorted thinking is that if we have a person to ourselves and we can control them they won’t go away.

The same holds true for the fear of losing money whose emphasis of financial success dominates the competitive mind that there is not enough money for everybody and that in order to make money to live it must be taken from another in ruin to succeed. The motivation of this belief is structured at the most base level of our being whose fear of rejection by comparison values and survival is equally shared with all of humanity. These are the fears that teach us to say “No” to life for us to feel safe. They are the same fears that bring question to our worthiness of love and devotion and reject our deepest longings and dreams. These fears of limitation are the same limitations we have adapted to and have built our entire lives around.

Our vice for security makes for powerful illusions generated from a psychologically conditioned mind whose “fixed entity” our instinctual or lower mind relies upon to solve the problem of fear.  Through observation we see innumerous fears that infiltrate our minds that we believe to be true, in fact, our world is constructed of them and they are imbedded into our very code of existence creating conflict. We are always subjugating ourselves to patterns within a system whether they have been established by our selves or others creating immense stress that permeates and dominates our minds. An exhaustive amount of energy is dissipated by keeping control of the images of our selves and others in tact creating a falsity of internal order that never solves the insecurity that underlies it. When we seek to look deeply into how our self-image is justified and supported by this code of existence that is our conditioning, we see how fear has been imparted to us as an effective life tool having high value.  The only value that is worth honoring is the value that comes from honoring ourselves and sharing our gifts in whatever we do, the value of recognizing our worth no matter where we stand.

Moving through the fear

As we merge into our psychological fear brackets we no longer see it as a separate threat to us and we become our fear in motion as we walk through it trusting. Our mind begins to rejects the falsehoods that have been adapted to for generations and liberates us from its psychological attachment. We can now take control of the physical body and its reactions. The directional will of the higher mind frees our energy so that we are in a state of actuality than moot in fear of the unknown of what will be, or what was, riddled by the fear of the future or fear of the past.

We recognize that as long as we fight something we empower it and that when there is no renunciation of the mind reflected through the lower instinctual processes to the mind cognizance of the soul or Essential Self reflected through the higher brain states, there is no surrender to wholeness and we are left empty living life as a spiritual vagabond without fulfillment. Living fearfully is to live within an isolationist perspective where we shut out our Essential Self and therefore, render ourselves incompatible with wholeness that is love.  Trusting Spirit as ally removes the insidious fear while we come to understand the inherent Laws of the Universe that provides for us through all of life’s ups and downs, a path beneath our feet. When we recognize the mysterious force of energy, wisdom, patience and compassion operating in and through us we awaken from our illusion of fear – out of our minds jail to create our colorful dream of choice. Thereby, we transmute our state of fear holding the power to transform into a universal human and to co-create our present-future equal to our full potential. Living that choice changes our lives forever!

 In the poignant words of President Franklin D. Roosevelt, “In the future days, which we seek to make secure, we look forward to a world founded upon four essential human freedoms.  The first is freedom of speech and expression – everywhere in the world.  The second is freedom of every person to worship God in his own way – everywhere in the world.  The third is freedom from want…the fourth is freedom from fear.”

How can I tell if I am on the track of fear?

  • Associative memory of the past makes me anxious and resistant to the next step when I am confronted with it.
  • I have multiple reasons that are both logical and legitimate and circumstances that support my resistance in moving forward.
  • I experience frequent episodes of burn out or lethargy.

Questions to Consider

  1. If fear did not stop you, what might you be doing differently?
  2. How does it make you feel to walk out of fear’s prison into freedom, which means to open your heart to yourself-accepting the essence of you as divine?
  3. What does it mean to you to create life based on possibility, than on fear’s teachings?
  4. In what specific way might you eradicate a fear and replace it with trust in your intuition or inner wisdom?

I can integrate my fear by:  

  • Setting personal boundaries around how much time I spend serving others and by using agreements to let others know what my boundaries are.
  • Keeping boundaries firm develops inner trust and strength, which means that I must agree not abandon my inner self when I feel the pain of someone’s rejection because I hold a boundary that keeps him/her from getting his/her needs met in the moment.

Alisa Battaglia©2005-2019

Cravings ~ Part 2

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Does this Sound Familiar?

After several rounds of eating your favorite dessert question, “What is causing this to happen’ & “Why do I want this right now?” Pondering these questions en route to the fridge, pantry, special drawer, or better, as you’re entertaining it – will surprise you to learn your answers to these questions.

The key to releasing cravings is to recognize them as they arise. Attention placed on the current emotional state automatically sets up an interruption of the pattern. The interruption is “noticing” the craving. Craving a particular food is an indication that your body already has too much of it. It indicates imbalance in the body, which can lead to food allergy. Sugar, caffeine, carbohydrates, meat, and dairy all affect mood and only lead to health problems in the end so, try not to indulge in negative cravings, as they will always spiral out of control.

Cravings come from the unconscious. They’re patterns that we’re used to and do not think much about because they provide comfort. We all have a need for immediate satisfaction, to seek after the pleasure principle, whose innate response urges us to insulate our true feelings with something – whether with food, drugs, alcohol, sex, shopping, gambling, gaming, or whatever. Whatever one’s delight, it is meant to dissipate physical tension, at least temporarily to soften the edges.

Cravings offer a positive side, too. It’s the way the body sends us messages to maintain balance, to refuel our energy or lift our moods. For instance, the body may require Vitamin C to help heal a cold. Desiring an orange or citrus would be a result of a good craving and positive habit to reach for an orange. Body wisdom is working by sending us messages to maintain balance. Yet, if we ignore these messages for any prolonged period to find equilibrium, the more we get out of control and suffer the negative repercussions of our faulty habits and unresolved emotional cravings.

Learning to listen to the needs of the body is essential, as are the responses we get from eating food that causes symptoms (gas, indigestion, acid reflux, nausea, diarrhea, constipation, skin problems, bad breath, headaches, achy joints, etc). So, whenever the body is craving something, pause for a moment and wonder, “What’s really going on here?” “Is this craving coming from my body or my emotions?”

When we find ourselves impulsively reaching for some food, take a moment to slow down, breathe, and reevaluate the situation and consider what your heart and Soul are really asking for. Remember that the pause alone sets up an interruption to the behavior to overcome the craving. The choice is yours. We may choose to honor our bodies needs with Love or to hop onto the vicious cycle of negative pattern repetition where dissatisfaction, self-loathing, and low esteem await claim.

The point of focus is to look for food imbalances, emotional deficits and behaviors in your life that are often the underlying cause of cravings. Many times what we think are emotional cravings are cravings caused by nutritional imbalances that affect emotion, and vice-versa.

To help move through the emotional impulses and understand the why. I have the tools to help you.  Schedule an appointment to bring balance and well-being into your life.

Alisa Battaglia©2009-2018

YouareEat

Negative Emotions & Food – Part 1

Every moment of every day your thoughts – all the endless chattering inside your head are manifesting themselves as your reality. If your internal voice is a monologue that constantly criticizes your every move as a failure, you will fail. ~The Intention 

What we put in our mind is as important as what we put in our mouths, just as the exercise of our mind is as important as the exercise of our bodies. This makes sense, as the body-mind is one system where every thought creates a biological reaction in the body. In fact, life-negating thoughts are infectious and have a powerful negative effect on the healing system of the body. For instance, if our thoughts are filled with fear, guilt, anger, depression, or anxiety we often necessitate a physical compensation of eating comfort foods to return some sense of balance despite the physical consequences. Over time these compensating eating behaviors become fixed in the unconscious mind, thereby turning this process into uncontrollable cravings that creates destructive patterns in our lives. Negative emotions acidify the blood – a precursor to dis-ease states.

In my own process to wellness over a span of over two decades, I discovered that there was a direct link between my emotions and food cravings. That the food I ate was only one source of energy – a secondary source of energy in my life because it was secondary to the primary sustenance that comes from feeling good in my body from movement, having healthy happy relationships, a fulfilling vocation, creative outlets and most importantly a spiritual practice.

The quality of my life in all areas directly affected my thoughts and feelings, which were closely linked to what I would eat and drink. When I was bothered by something I gave up a wholesome meal for a small box of chocolates – an impulse buy at the checkout counter. I used food as a way to insulate my pain. I have always exercised and have never been overweight, but assuredly, if I had not worked on my emotional eating patterns and discovered a correction between my negative mood states and the effects certain food had on my physiology, I very well could be. I found, however, that it was not so much about weight, but developing body wisdom and affirming attitude towards life. This important distinction between what primary food and secondary food is makes or breaks quality of life.

No doubt, the kinds of food we eat are essential to our health. The food we digest is assimilated into our bodies and transforms food and nutrients into blood. The bloodstream picks up nutrients from sunlight infused food, the digestive tract, oxygen from the lungs, hormones from the endocrine glands and enzymes from other parts of the body, and transports to all tissues, structures head to toe. It also picks up wastes and transports to the lungs, liver, kidneys, lymph system, etc. for detoxification and eventual elimination. Blood builds, fuels, cleanses, moistens, cools and warms all structure and function.” The energy output of our food that creates our cells, new tissues, organs, skin and hair is a factor held within the pH (acid/Alkaline) balance of our blood directly linked by food and negative emotion.

Most people consider food the only aspect of nutrition, but I discovered that when I was nourished on a deeper level that my body would shift into an intuitive eating pattern. For instance, when I was grounded in my body, I noticed that it would tell me what it needed to feel nourished. When I did not observe my body’s wisdom and ate something other, I often got a stomach ache. This became a trial and error process of what to eat and when to eat. I also discovered that the body self-regulates. Self-regulation—the inner wisdom of my body, lets me know through healthy food cravings that I need to eat more raw food, protein, fruit or vegetables nutrition, and so on. For instance, if I have a craving for salt or sugar, I take note of my monthly biorhythm & what may be temporarily out of balance due to hormone fluctuation of nutrition imbalances. I then seek to fulfill that craving in a healthy way.I find that eating a large tablespoon or two of thick raw honey readily satisfies a desire for sweetness or raw 88% cacao chocolate increasing serotonin the brain.

To activate the body’s self-regulation it is essential to eat when our bodies are hungry and not according to the dictates of the clock.  Self-regulation requires that we no longer ingest toxic foods, sugars and high fructose corn syrup, transfats, chemical additives and highly addictive substances.

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