Understanding Energetic Boundaries for an Empowered Feminine Life Series Energetic Boundaries in Relationships – Part 1

What does every female learn about boundaries growing up?  There aren’t any! At least for most, perhaps aside from the warnings, “don’t talk to strangers or get into a car with anyone you don’t know.” And yet, the young fem is taught to extend herself from her safe inner sanctum in order to please others. She is told to play with those she does not like to just keep the peace. She is sexualized early before she recognizes that her appearance is significant to others and told to act like a lady, dress like a lady, speak like a lady, stay quiet and don’t give opinion. She is told that it’s her fault when a man fails to take self-responsibility for his sexual behavior and to let it go. Must’ve been too short or shown too much skin! She is guilted into doing things that are not of her own volition because they would affect others and that would be bad. She is taught to cede control without compromise even to those who don’t respect her. Silly Girl! Silly because she has failed to even discover where her boundaries actually start and where they end and the cycle repeats living life in accordance to the boundaries of others. As if on a sliding scale she adjusts her boundaries and life according to his, stretching and contracting. Is it no wonder that a women’s default defense in the negative is to cajole and manipulate to get her way so she stays within the parameters of others boundaries, rather than express from within her own domain?

Boundaries bear the fruit in every significant relationship and that starts with her. Without them, life is a swim against a current that is a constantly immersive experience of trying to keep a pretty head above water as the tides of emotions call the day. Physical space is necessary for life. That is what boundaries are about. A kind of personal territory to function well. To give space from being too close that causes a stunting of growth or feeling overdrawn from giving too much. No matter, these expressions are dysfunctional in the way to manage personal energy. 

Physical boundaries refer to body sovereignty, privacy, and personal space. In reality, though, there are no boundaries because all is connected at the spiritual level, but at the physical level everyone requires them. There are many types of boundaries and all healthy ones are negotiated around non-negotiable boundaries. This means that healthy boundaries are a reflection of the principles, rules, and guidelines she has set for herself. After all, a woman sets the standard for how she wishes to be treated. A breach arises when she fails to manage her boundaries in ways that honor her entirely and when her significant relationships disrespect, ignore, or is unaware of those principles or personal needs. If she has loose boundaries this always leads to some form of emotional manipulation, whether or not it’s intentional.

Understanding the desire for healthy boundary space differs between men and women and is vital for the allowance of differences, communication and unique expression. One is not better than the other, they simply are different “qualities” that are complimentary or subject for great difficulty when not understood and respected in their output. An awareness of contrast supports the feminine to safeguard her space in a positive, loving and dynamic way while also honoring the boundaries of the masculine. Space between the gender bodies and their spiritual energy fields allows for reciprocal flow with recognition of the unique vibrational qualities of the other. It is a power sharing arrangement!

The quality of energy in the natural female body is higher in vibration and therefore, lighter and faster moving. The feminine has a way of doing things quickly and often is the wonder woman that manages a household, meals and children. Her energy pattern of how she moves through the world is more intuitive, holistic, creative, and integrative. Emotions are her natural domain. She is inclined to rescue others she sees as victimized in her leaning to be more sensitive, warm and attentive to others. She is also more apprehensive which is where she can be more easily manipulated by her counterpart. In contrast, the natural male body is lower in vibration, heavier and slower moving. He is more focused on one thing at a time and multi-tasking is not his domain. His natural tendency is a methodical approach to emotional stability that grounds the feminine. His energy pattern of how he moves through the world is more logical, analytical, and rational. The mind is his natural domain. The masculine energy tends to be more dominant in his approach to life and is more forceful and aggressive in how he gets his way. He has a more difficult time relating to his own feelings and may retreat if he feels threatened by the expression of her feelings in his presence, which is the area where he is most easily manipulated.

These masculine and feminine energy qualities may play out differently, but if not understood they express disfunctionally through the invasion of both physical space and within the spiritual energetic domain. A bodies vibration is disrupted when it is invaded by another’s energy. This always produces disharmony. This disruption in the other body’s vibration gives rise to the general pattern of irritation that creates the energetic tensions between the gender bodies, kind of like feeling a small pebble in a shoe.

Both gender bodies agree that they have difficulty with the other body energy invading their space. For instance, feminine space invaded by a foreign male body energy causes her to feel slow, depressed and grief filled. His heavy energy pulls her down. He invades in his belief that in order for the feminine to survive, he needs to keep her safe. He tells her what to wear, what to do, where to sit and how she shall be seen so he can keep his eye on her. This can freak her out, cause her to rebel and even put herself in danger by his disruption into her energy system. His dominance and control over her body space and spiritual energetics is a huge source of contention that in part spawned the feminist movement in her desire to express and be heard without his invasion into her autonomy. She cannot deal or heal with her partners vibration, but she can deal and heal with her own.

When masculine space is invaded by foreign feminine body energy, he feels frenetic, spacey and perturbed. Her excitation escalates his energy into discomfort. For example, the slower and denser vibration of the male often reinforces the female belief that she needs to quicken his pace by nagging or doing it for him, thus she treats him as a child thereby invading his space and trying to create through his energy system. The slow roll male energy is what many a feminine attest in the dragging of his feet to commitment, the laxness of doing chores, expressing appreciation or lacking erotic imagination in sex. The feminine must be very exacting in how she desires to be fulfilled since the masculine is more logical, analytical, and rational that he requires explicit direction and spoken to in a way that does not raise his ire. Rather than focusing her energy into his energy field or body space, the feminine must stay focused in her own energetic domain and learn how to speak his language so he can hear her.

Masculine and feminine energy behavior constructed from beliefs cause an invasion of the other. Beliefs are often learned behaviors modeled from childhood. This is familiar in the typical parent-child relationship where the parent steals the child’s self-responsibility by trying to solve their problems by telling them what to do, think and be. Invading behavior is trying to make another do what is wanted. Played out in adulthood this may translate as a parent invading the physical and energetic space of the offspring in order to live out their dream. The world is full of stories of setting aside dreams and desires to live out a parent’s aspiration. People are not incarnated to energetically create through another and live out others dreams.

Society teaches to take the focus off of self and to place it on others instead.  To learn how to move energy through her own body and not through his body, she has to let go of beliefs that causes her to do so. This requires self-responsibility for personal behavior and a sustained personal focus of how social patterns play out. He must learn to do the same. She, nor he can heal or get the other to do so other than by cultivating within their own energy system. This points to the futility of attempting to create through the other.

At a broader level, reflecting on social relationships with the emerging global infrastructure it is easy to see how energetic tentacles invade humanities collective physical and energy bodies via dictates of what is put into them, what to believe, what to eat, what to learn, what to say, how to act, and so on. Escalating levels of invasion into personal energetic domains in the attempt to control physical body space produce effects that are highly negative and undesirable. There lacks a consensual power sharing arrangement and will always produce blow back as a natural response to body sovereignty in the sowing of discord and chaos.

The integration of inner masculine and feminine spiritual energies is the only way to grow, heal, create and produce more of what is desired. The Male-female relationship by nature of polaric physical and energetic differences provides an opportune environment to do so. When there is a flow of energy exchange coupled with respect, anything desired can be created.  Whether that is a family, a home, a project, or workspace environment there is always better interaction and more fun when allowing each other personal space and unique vibration to shine through.

AlisaBattaglia©2023

The Story of a Pearl

By Alisa Battaglia

Often times relationships are rife with frictions yet understood. A deeper reflection brings to the awareness a spiritual necessity for the friction and the purpose revealed in simplicity. I share this interaction with you in that you may resonate with your own relational relational riffs and how they may be used to benefit your inner evolution.  

“It is clear as to the strength of my personality in helping to catalyze you to the edge of your comfort zone for an inner transformation. To lead you into a healing crisis necessary for initiation onto a higher spiritual pathway. To unconsciously rub the painful scab over wounds you have never healed and continue to run from. You can run, but you cannot hide! Unhealed wounds carry weight and are self-destructive! You are too beautiful a person to linger there. 

Like the oysters you so enjoy, when an irritant enters its shell and gets trapped and unable to flush out, the grit is cultured for a while into a shiny creation. Only about one in 10,000 make a pearl. Note the wisdom of the mollusk. They make pearls against irritants that sneak into its soft tissue and to heal that abrasion they exude layer upon layer of shell material to become exceptionally strong. 

Be like the pearl!”

Alisa Battaglia©2023

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Twin Flame

By Alisa Battaglia

I have a secret to share. The twin flame is within you. The inner masculine to the feminine and the inner feminine to the masculine. When there is a merging of the inner male and female aspects of self…love overflows. From self-love that it invites a greater love…another…into the hearts domain. Only when self meets self, the divine union, can the magnetic fusion attract another into your life. Self-love is the foundation and antidote! Start there!

AlisaBattaglia©2022                         

The Mirror

By Alisa Battaglia

When I look into the mirror, I meet my eyes and look deeply into the pools of inner knowing, past the lines of time etched in my skin.

For an instant, I feel the shame of a mystic that recognizes Soul imperfection in comparison with the Universe it penetrates. I speak out in question, “Have I done enough in my incarnated Soul mission?”

Then I watch my face contort and tears streams down my cheeks. Instantly a wise gentle inner voice assuages and says, “I’ve only just begun. Now I have wisdom, life experience born into wisdom.”

The Path of Wisdom earns favor with God.

Those who gain wisdom are compared to a tree firmly planted, that yields fruit in abundance in due season, whose leaves do not wither; whatever they do prospers (Ps. 1:3).

12/01/22

AlisaBattaglia©2022

Manifesting Miracles in the I AM Presence

By Alisa Battaglia

I write for all of us in pain on a daily basis whether in heart, mind, body, and Soul.

Each day we are challenged to conform ourselves to the accepted values of a changing world of dysfunction and yet, we are home and live in that dysfunction in our bodies, hearts and mind.

“Remember a day, perhaps long ago or even an instant where your heart was free, your body light and nimble, and your mind without care? Feel that moment. Embrace it, imbue it, for it is always who you are. Now merge that point of reference – the feeling memory – into you now. Feel through your entire being. Appreciate it, feel the Grace.”

In spiritual works, it has been shown and repeated that body follows mind. A succession from mind to heart to body that manifests healing through the “feeling heart of awareness.”  Perhaps doing this merging process with the ailing part of you can overwrite and make you well – to bring upon a healing synthesis wherever that unrequited perfection lingers.  Perchance, to initiate a miracle no matter how large or small.

I share my personal experience.  In my daily asking  before I got out of bed, I queried “God, what do I need to know today?” Instantly a great reverence filled me. Deep appreciation consumed my heart to tears in the awareness of the gift of my life that I uttered this statement. Each time I repeated it with a different tone only to discover a new facet of its breadth. The profundity of this simple statement has continued to change and direct my life.

“Thank you God, for Me, because of You, I AM!”

The” I AM” is the absolute upon which all rests, the foundation of all external circumstances.  I AM  is the spiritual identity of the Christ Mind, the indwelling Lord of Life, Love and Wisdom and the eternality of all that exists within the Divine Mind. The “I AM” in the image of GOD.

“Thank you God, for Me, because of You, I AM!” is my daily mantra for anytime and anyplace I feel alone, unappreciated, confused and in need of guidance. I share its spiritual power with you.

Speak these words in meditation or prayer. Create a space between the words to feel a vibration between them. Feel the layers of each part revealing deeper meaning. Absorb these feelings into your heart and mind. Speak this “I AM” statement aloud in different intonations until you feel a shift in energy.

“Thank you God, for Me.” Feel the appreciation for your gift in life, because of God choosing you. “Because of You, I AM.” In the, I AM, feel the gratitude of Life, the blessing and Grace over you.  When you feel this and are in a heightened state of awareness say the “I AM” mantra three times followed with your desire of any subject:  Health, Love, Abundance, whatever you choose that is of high vibration. Create a mental image and a new self-concept with it.  Do this for 2 to 5 minutes. You will feel when to stop picturing your desires when your energy is overflowing. Do this for 21 days or until you anchor your new state of consciousness as your guiding inner directive.

Feeling Exercise:

Say the “I AM” mantra aloud three times slowly moving into deeper feeling.

“Thank you God, for Me, because of You, I AM!”
“Thank you God, for Me, because of You, I AM!”
“Thank you God, for Me, because of You, I AM!”

I AM, I AM, I AM … I AM receiving an extraordinary event in my life manifesting as a divine intervention. The healing miracles bestowed upon me reshape my heart, mind, body, and Soul to total perfection of my I Am Divine blueprint. I am happy, safe, healthy, and free.

Other Examples of Desire Subjects:

I AM, I AM, I AM … I AM a renown spiritual author and teacher. I help others benefit their lives. I give this service for a wonderful pay. My life is spiritually and financially abundant.  I joyfully attune to my spiritual life mission and receive abundance that sustains all of my needs.

I AM, I AM, I AM … I AM pure love attracting a divine love complimentary counterpart for romantic partnership. I feel attraction and in him everything I need to grow. I am loved, cherished, safe, and respected and we grow together each day. Love is the healing balm that surrounds and fills my life.

I AM, I AM, I AM … I AM healthy and strong. I AM perfect health. God has restored me!
My cells are regenerated. My bones, fascia, organs, lymph, endocrines, blood, and nervous system are in perfect harmony of health and well being. My entire body is healthy and energized, constantly regenerating into my divine wellness blueprint. I function in my highest and best.

I AM, I AM, I AM … I AM in right livelihood enjoying, growing, creating, and excelling in every way. My work is generous, co-operative, honest, and ethical in trade. I collaborate with others creating greater benefit to help serve people in need. I am compassionate Love in action.

May many miracles manifest in your life!

AlisaBattaglia©2022
11/03/22  Moon on Juno in Pisces with Scorpio Venus on South Node

On Healing for Courage

Healing occurs at the Soul level, but if identification is with the physical body and its desires, healing is temporary.

Healing always transpires on the subtle level and through the subtle body, that of the Soul. People who have had spontaneous remissions or full relief of chronic pain can attest to full surrender to the greater will of God or higher Self. Playing the “Poor me” victim role expresses upon the plane of which ones level of consciousness resides. Now, take a look around and observe the cry of victims everywhere. There are people who are actually victimized by others in power and need help out of it and then there are those who cry wolf to victimhood for political gain. Discern the difference as awareness can produce a very different response and therefore, outcome.

I hear people pray and petition for a divine intervention and yet, praying is asking for what has “not come” and brings focus on the negative of not receiving. The focus rather is best aligned under the magnetic law of attraction whereby invoking spiritual help in giving thanks as if it has already happened. Giving thanks ahead of time invokes a positive and receptive response. You can practice this yourself. For instance, imagine a healthy and loving world and your place contributing to the beauty and betterment of the planet for all sentient life. After a time, take note of a cohering effect and how your interior life is less disorganized and confused. When there is congruency between what you think, feel, say, and do is when inner power builds to great courage.

Since the energy field of the body is a large magnet and attracts forces to it according to your mental plane activity, it is important to bear responsibility of your own thought building. With a repetition of thought patterns, self-talk, or educational/social conditioning, you are attracting forces to you either positively or detrimentally. As you may already know, the chakras or energy centers of the body condition the mind via their intersectionality. Although, all is interconnected and interchangeable in a multi dimensional anatomy, it is the higher Will of your Soul seeking to orchestrate an alignment with your ego personality. They are those inklings, nuances and inner promptings towards healing of your inner complexes so that the life urge of your Soul may express through your human form in all its awe and brilliance.

If your ego personality is highly conditioned to the lower forces of selfishness, depravities, lack of compassion for life and so on, any receptivity to the Soul urge is obliterated to become blight on the planet. Segments of humanity have already sunk into the devolutionary pathways as sources of global power turn people in victims and willing followers and perpetrators to carry out their psychopathy of *democide upon the human family and all sentient life.

Healing is vitally necessary to rise courage from your heart and the breast of every living being aligned in the life urge agenda. It is our collective birthright by virtue of incarnation for the creative life of the Soul to thrive and evolve in the divine order of Nature and highest spiritual life potential on earth.

*Democide: The murder of any person or people by a government, including genocide, politicide, and mass murder.

AlisaBattaglia©2022

Materialism, a Fraud against Humanity

By Alisa Battaglia

Contrary to what some people might believe, there is nothing wrong with having pleasures and enjoyments. What is wrong is the confused way we grasp onto these pleasures, turning them from a source of happiness into a source of pain and dissatisfaction.  ~Lama Thubten Yeshe, “Introduction to Tantra”

Whenever a nation stands aloof from virtue and ethics as its epicenter it is beguiled by sense reality. And to the extent that materialism succeeds, humanity becomes inwardly weak from focus on the externals. A preoccupation with buying, selling, loss and gain prevails in the absence of love and goodness. This is a major factor in deterioration, as vested interests lurk around with selfish motives and ambition. Materialism is a fraud against humanity since it masquerades as something virtuous.

As the world of the senses takes over wisdom is clouded. This enfeebling is happening all over the world today as pressures to conform echo borrowed thoughts. What influence will today’s controlled multitude have on the new generation? Wisdom is required to turn the tide. “Wisdom avoids going through the experience of trial and error; it is awakened by the clarity within that sets one free from illusions and deceptions” (J. Krishnamurti).  

Very few of us work on piercing through our projected deceptions and save ourselves from the commotion of a wasted life—duty bound and irresponsible at the same time. Education prepares to teach us how to fit into a job quashing the potential to be more humane and connected to the living world. We are taught to solve problems and go through the motions without realizing that there are no problems at all apart from the mind. Problems always relate to fear and self-centeredness. Insecurity is a permanent stamp upon humanity and self is an abstraction manufactured by thought. So, do we really have problems or are we just in doubt, fearful and self-centered? Where is the “clarity” that dissolves all problems and the duality of thought itself?

When interpretation is based on opinion and assumption, it has little to do with reality and fragmentation continues to thrive. Through questioning, we can free ourselves from opinions, assumptions, beliefs, conclusions, and consequences. Self-discovery, not efficiency leads to new action founded on the need to express truth and love within, rather than ambition and motive. This is where transformation takes place.

Society will not change, but we can govern the law of our own being as we rise to the heights and relate with the reality within. We may not be able to do anything about government, but we can be aware of what is not ethical and then build our lives with self-responsibility for our own ethics and virtues. This is each our responsibility, to love one another as ourselves. To accept that responsibility is life transforming. And no-thing can defeat this inner shift.

The Kingdom is perfectly united and perfectly protected, and the ego will not prevail against it. Amen. ~ A Course in Miracles, I, pg 54.

AlisaBattaglia©2008-2022

These Hands

By Alisa Battaglia

These Hands
Extend companionship in a world of lonely hearts.

These Hands
Hold a furry face with kisses. Beloved furkid!

These Hands
Button up the shirt of a snotty nose boy on a cold winter day.
Where’s Momma?

These Hands
Toil to move the soil and tend the garden for future nourishment.

These Hands
Bake cakes that delight and meals to please.

These Hands
Make beautiful things to enjoy and balms to heal.

These Hands
Receive goodwill and bouquets of flowers.

These Hands
Fold laundry, sew and clean.

These Hands
Raise to my face in sadness, cover my tired eyes and smooth my hair to what the world is becoming.

These Hands
Animate expressing my Soul.

These Hands
Lift a baby and close to my heart whisper to this soul life, “I See Beautiful You.”

These Hands
Hold memory tracing the muscles of your body and face.

These Hands
Hold a heart I’ve been entrusted to.

These Hands
Come together is prayer for a World Blessing!

AlisaBattaglia©2021

Elite

By Alisa Battaglia

I AM Sovereign!
I AM Free!
I Govern the Law of my own Being!

I need no one to tell me how to live.
What to put into my body or what to do.
Nor, how to behave, think, speak or feel, to induct my Soul into automaton.

I Am SOUL, Sovereign and Free and there is no Power over me other than my Creator.

I Am the Elite! You are the Elite!
We are the EnSouled Children of Love, Gods true Elite!

Who are the Imposters to claim themselves as Elite over Us?
Who are these Intruders of Spirit, Usurpers of Life?

They have NO ultimate POWER other than THROUGH you, Us!
BANISH them to the lower domain of spirits, their rightful plane as if they never were!!!

AlisaBattaglia©2021

I Feel Like Autumn

I feel like autumn.
As the leaves fall, so do my pretenses.
My positionalities related to the world externa.
As I watch the butterflies flit amongst the milkweed both feeding and laying eggs for chrysalis into a new life, I am reminded that in a world of constant becoming from ectopy to entropy, the dissolutive forces of life unfold, break down and shift into something altogether new.

Nature is my great teacher as I observe Her processes interwoven into my own life. A constant cascade of happenings so subtle, so dire that these transformative forces ignite the greater passions of my Soul as I surrender unto the sheathing process that brings me closer to myself as the One that is always becoming ever alive with God!  I AM!

AlisaBattaglia©2021