By Alisa Battaglia
I have a secret to share. The twin flame is within you. The inner masculine to the feminine and the inner feminine to the masculine. When there is a merging of the inner male and female aspects of self…love overflows. From self-love that it invites a greater love…another…into the hearts domain. Only when self meets self, the divine union, can the magnetic fusion attract another into your life. Self-love is the foundation and antidote! Start there!
AlisaBattaglia©2022
By Alisa Battaglia, BD, EFT, CHT, TH
The expressions of masculine and feminine energies are the focal point when we lose ourselves or encounter troubled parts of our being. When the Anima and Animus or soul is disconnected, there is self-devaluation and subjection to all sorts of self-limiting beliefs and painful emotions. Unfortunately, the systemic root within modern culture is to look outside of self for answers to inner dilemmas. This attitude is most prominent in the realm of relationships where vital energy for achieving inner congruency expends itself outwardly in search for the perfect companion. Although, relationships are one of the most fulfilling aspects of life because they mirror what is necessary to learn about ourselves through another, they also promote co-dependence when we look to them for our wholeness. Using a relationship as a crutch or distraction from self always stifles growth. Instead, we might guide one other to connect with the authentic self, the wise inner being that nourishes and frees us from attachments.
Regardless of gender or sexual orientation, there is both a feminine and a masculine part of our nature. True femininity, is connected to the masculine and true masculinity is connected to the feminine. Bridging and maintaining balance between these two compelling forces of energy is a power sharing arrangement. The archetypal forces of the assertive masculine qualities and the receptive feminine qualities are both fundamental parts of our bio-psycho-spiritual development.
Too often, there is restraint from fully animating the masculine side of nature because there is belief that it will harm or violate others, especially if experience has proven it so. In reality, power is neutral and depending on intent, power either harms or helps. In addition, the feminine counterpart erroneously equates with weakness and accommodation. However, we are power, effective and free when we animate both our masculine and feminine energies from a place of love and openness as opposed to fear and defensiveness. The result of inner fusion produces a shift in consciousness as a state of sovereignty within us. Sovereignty allows the soul that is whom we are to achieve with ease its true purpose, which frees us of co-dependency so we may relate to others in an authentic way that is not sabotaged by neediness of the bifurcated personality.
The feminine and masculine archetype represents through the right and left halves of the brain and the corresponding sides of the body. It is always interesting to note the side of the body where personal will, injury and pain originate. Are they fairly limited to one side of the body or are they evenly dispersed in different areas? Observing the pattern and where tensions or dis-eases, our strengths or weaknesses in body and character are held, is just as important as to which side of the body the imbalance dominates. Essentially, the left side of the body is the receptive side of the body with a negative ion (-) and therefore, feminine, which relates to emotions and intuition. The feminine principle provides the nurturing, inner awareness and vision to guide us through life. The right side of the body with a positive ion (+) is action oriented and therefore, masculine, which relates to logic and focused mental pursuits. The masculine principle provides the action and the will needed to meet our destination. If the introspective feminine is underactive and the active masculine is overactive, a clear and soulful sense of life direction is absent. Conversely, if an appropriate direction is envisioned of where we want to go in the feminine, but the masculine is underactive, there lacks will, making it difficult to ignite into action and accomplish goals.
Overactive masculine energy is characterized by tough love, hyper mental focus and achievement oriented. In such an overactive state, alot of mental energy is expended -circuitously locked in a pattern of unfulfillment even after months or years of effort only to feel burdened with a backlog of unfinished projects and unfulfilled desires. This often relates to people married to their job or see value in life only in terms of materialism. In turn, underactive feminine energy often becomes an “inability to do” that relies on relationships as a substitute for self-development. Internally, masculine and feminine energies need to be working in tandem to protect mutual sovereignty. This means that when the relationship between the masculine and feminine self is non-communicative, inner energies are not working together in harmony and therefore, vulnerable to internal and external invasion. While the feminine is most vulnerable to the controlling masculine and saviorship patterns, the masculine is equally responsible for the pattern of invasion of its feminine counterpart and others. If the male cannot trust and surrender to his inner feminine he will find it difficult to trust and surrender in his relationships or will use his fear and mistrust to seek power over others. If the female cannot trust and use her masculine edge or inner phallic to defend herself or her family unit and support herself wisely, she will use this energy negatively to her detriment. She will either mistrust or hurt others with it unable to trust or surrender in her relationships or she will give her energy away on a silver platter and render herself victim to masculine power. She is unable to stand in her presence and fortify boundaries to feel safe, which is masculine energy. The healing process begins when a relational dialogue develops between the masculine and feminine energies, one at a time. This means getting to know the energetic expressions of each domain and how they play out in our lives.
Wise to grasp that men and women are equal in value, but different in function. Understood this way both gender principles can be developed equally, rather than take a lopsided approach. For example, a common experience occurs when the feminine vision is clear, but the masculine heads off in another direction for lack of inner dialogue that prevents understanding and/or achievement of true purpose. In such a state of imbalance, the inner feminine expression is thwarted and fear takes over trust, intuitive guidance or wisdom. However, when knowingness and common sense of the masculine is confirmed by the feminine intuition, balance is found. We need to be both strong and sensitive, to dance without being polarized.
Awareness produces an ever-increasing dictum of how life exists in polarity or dual nature. When the masculine and feminine self becomes an integrated composite of highly creative energies or sovereign, spiritual forces flow throughout the body and we experience our lives more fully, inner directed and move forward on our path. When these energies are out of balance, progress is generally difficult, if not impossible.
Cultivating spiritual ethics, a set of values mediated not by thinking, but by feeling truth is a path of action that takes us from awareness to presence and in touch with lovingness, compassion and kindness that does not harm, but protects life.
Alisa Battaglia©2008-2018
2nd Publication©2019
By Alisa Battaglia, B.D., C. H.T., EFT, TH
FEAR occurs in the emotional realm of human consciousness. It is the dominant emotional energy permeating our planet at present time whose distortion, aggression and violence are all negative limitations implanted in the feeling-thought complex of which emotion is derived. While this defensive mindset is no exception, it functions as a survival mechanism that proves to be suicidal operating in an exploitive mode of consciousness. Its presence is capable of reducing human beings into timid and frightened automatons insufficient to cope with life’s situations and stupefied by the problems of existence. Fear is the greatest enemy of self-understanding and the basic element that supports an addictive and compulsive mindset expressed in a myriad of unconstructive ways within our own lives and within our global paradigm.
Fear is the primary response that holds captive the human reigned by the five senses of the instinctual life from evolving towards the higher grades of intellectual and intuitive consciousness. Understanding the basis of psychological fear will help us meet with our instinctual fear nature that is part of our primal brains genetic DNA inherited from ancient human memory of past pain and grievances. The primal part of the brain that we have long inherited from animals in our human evolution whose biological conditioning in nature is based upon the ignorance of Universal Law and forces of nature and terror of the dark. It is the part of us reactive to threat that is meant to protect us and lend access to courage and directed will to carry out achievements that might normally have been impossible. However, when the stream of life is centered on this basic level it becomes dominated by the emotional responses of survival that protects and governs most of our habits.
Four psychological fears are borne out of the instincts for self-preservation. The sex instinct, which has its roots in the instinct of self-preservation, guarantees the progenitor of the species and abandons the psychological fear of loneliness of being unmated. The herd instinct governs us toward family and community, which abandon our fear of isolation. From the instinct of self-assertion we work to sustain our self and family from fear of death, victimhood or failure. The instinct to enquire drives us forward to gain the depths of knowledge through experience and education for fear of not knowing or of being left behind. The instinctual survivalist fear package is a part of our DNA and can never be rid of, as it provides the vital foundation for all other facets of our development. We can, however, develop the necessary tools that will advance us in its integration within the gradient stages of evolving consciousness.
In order to extend beyond the initial stages of these instinctual fear vibrations that hold dominion over the non-mental animal kingdom and the emotionally reactive unthinking persons, we must be able to ascertain the dynamics that form the dysfunctional interplay between physical fear and psychological fear. In recognition of our deeply rooted psychological fears interconnected with our basic instinctual responses we can begin to examine the network of escapes, habits and addictions we have developed to pacify them. Unlike animals, the roots of psychological fear is a conditioned human response potently increased through the power of the mind and aggravated through the perpetuation of memory that draws upon accumulated experience, knowledge, tradition and time that creates the background from which we react. The combined effort of our conditionings and reliance of our instinctual senses to guide us through the everyday world makes us highly sensitive and uneasy to disarm. Often, even something slight or someone instigating this indwelling impulse will trigger the primal guard whose relief of tension is an aggressive or violent response from that slight perturbation. This uncontrolled impulse is responsible for the reckless aggressive drivers that we experience on our highways everyday and for the jealous acts of passion that engage a protective and dominant response to threats against what we consider “our property.”
To grasp the basic nature of the personality governed first by instinct is to know that any situation whose actions are associated with defeat or borne of opposition than allowance, the lower mind structure will perceive it as a threat and will struggle to dominate. The power to dominate again is easily seen in an aggressive driver on a highway that speeds up and challenges passage irked by a slowing vehicle to change a lane or in the exit of the ramp. The struggle between functioning within our lower responses with the more evolved brain can be observed in the over-sensitized person whose emotional response pattern is towards hysteria, the energy is of a nervous quality with thoughts that run in an effusive manner and their dreams and visions are expanded filled with fear. The veneer for such an emotional response pattern would naturally be one of the extreme opposite of altercation whose defense mechanism is meant to keep any altercation from its core.
When we feel unsure the instinct of self-assertion clutches tightly for its survival and automates defensiveness. How often have we felt defensive by some looming insecurity or assassinated our characters or others because of it? If we did not get hooked into a defensive posture we observed two things. First, our instinctual need to take control by some form of response or action by striving for certainty of attitude and then to dominate it, which would be the directive power of the will upon another or plainly, manipulation by turning the situation around in blame or verbal abuse, or we would walk away defensively easily disguised. We can easily observe this emotional pattern in relationships whose unconscious instinctual fear attachment is expressed through jealousy. Jealousy is stirred into action when attention is moved away from us. The response is assertiveness that seeks power over a loved one or friend as protectiveness through domination and pride of possession. Jealousy is a reaction for fear of loss that plugs into the illusion of security and whose distorted thinking is that if we have a person to ourselves and we can control them they won’t go away.
The same holds true for the fear of losing money whose emphasis of financial success dominates the competitive mind that there is not enough money for everybody and that in order to make money to live it must be taken from another in ruin to succeed. The motivation of this belief is structured at the most base level of our being whose fear of rejection by comparison values and survival is equally shared with all of humanity. These are the fears that teach us to say “No” to life for us to feel safe. They are the same fears that bring question to our worthiness of love and devotion and reject our deepest longings and dreams. These fears of limitation are the same limitations we have adapted to and have built our entire lives around.
Our vice for security makes for powerful illusions generated from a psychologically conditioned mind whose “fixed entity” our instinctual or lower mind relies upon to solve the problem of fear. Through observation we see innumerous fears that infiltrate our minds that we believe to be true, in fact, our world is constructed of them and they are imbedded into our very code of existence creating conflict. We are always subjugating ourselves to patterns within a system whether they have been established by our selves or others creating immense stress that permeates and dominates our minds. An exhaustive amount of energy is dissipated by keeping control of the images of our selves and others in tact creating a falsity of internal order that never solves the insecurity that underlies it. When we seek to look deeply into how our self-image is justified and supported by this code of existence that is our conditioning, we see how fear has been imparted to us as an effective life tool having high value. The only value that is worth honoring is the value that comes from honoring ourselves and sharing our gifts in whatever we do, the value of recognizing our worth no matter where we stand.
Moving through the fear
As we merge into our psychological fear brackets we no longer see it as a separate threat to us and we become our fear in motion as we walk through it trusting. Our mind begins to rejects the falsehoods that have been adapted to for generations and liberates us from its psychological attachment. We can now take control of the physical body and its reactions. The directional will of the higher mind frees our energy so that we are in a state of actuality than moot in fear of the unknown of what will be, or what was, riddled by the fear of the future or fear of the past.
We recognize that as long as we fight something we empower it and that when there is no renunciation of the mind reflected through the lower instinctual processes to the mind cognizance of the soul or Essential Self reflected through the higher brain states, there is no surrender to wholeness and we are left empty living life as a spiritual vagabond without fulfillment. Living fearfully is to live within an isolationist perspective where we shut out our Essential Self and therefore, render ourselves incompatible with wholeness that is love. Trusting Spirit as ally removes the insidious fear while we come to understand the inherent Laws of the Universe that provides for us through all of life’s ups and downs, a path beneath our feet. When we recognize the mysterious force of energy, wisdom, patience and compassion operating in and through us we awaken from our illusion of fear – out of our minds jail to create our colorful dream of choice. Thereby, we transmute our state of fear holding the power to transform into a universal human and to co-create our present-future equal to our full potential. Living that choice changes our lives forever!
In the poignant words of President Franklin D. Roosevelt, “In the future days, which we seek to make secure, we look forward to a world founded upon four essential human freedoms. The first is freedom of speech and expression – everywhere in the world. The second is freedom of every person to worship God in his own way – everywhere in the world. The third is freedom from want…the fourth is freedom from fear.”
How can I tell if I am on the track of fear?
Questions to Consider
I can integrate my fear by:
Alisa Battaglia©2005-2019
“There is only one relationship: you with you.
When you get that one right you can attract all the other relationships you choose.” ~The Group
It is all about you. You with you. The vibrational relationship between the inner authentic you, source creation the inner male and female creative spiritual energies, with the outer you as the personality mask you wear in the world. The distance between the two – the authentic self and the mask, is the amount of happiness or discord in your life. Feelings are ever the barometer to measure your alignment along that continuum. The goal is to close the distance in the gap, to synthesize all expressions into a functioning unit of inner organization that is an authentic expression of the essential Self and then lose your self as that identity into Being. In that Being, reflect that Love to others in a beautiful way to the point that they can see their best in you.
As energy beings whatever is done, is done to self first. Within the variances of the human collective, there are some that have more work to do than others in way of release and development, but no matter where you are in life, inner cultivation is open to you because even you can love yourself a little more. Since the kind of love you have for yourself is what you most want from another, it is wise to love and appreciate self first in order to magnetize a partner who loves and appreciates you. But, first you must partner with yourself.
In the self loving process you must seek to reorient your perceptions regarding yourself and the male/female in truth, rather than in myth. This calls for a release in attachments of co-dependencies; addictions and any hindering vestiges of the past; the embracing of your inner masculine and feminine selves; and finally a developed sense of control over physical impulses (self-discipline) and emotional reactivity(self-containment) before you can ever attempt to have a healthy soul conscious relationship with another person on an intimate level. A coherent identity is the requisite for self-sovereignty – mastering the self by correcting our errors – our misalignments. These are requisites that comprise an immutable process that flows and gains momentum when your heart is open. A receptive heart cannot occur until you embrace yourself wholeheartedly of everything that you feel, that you are and are not. This enables you to know what you can legitimately give and what you want from others. You are the tableau upon which your desires grow.
When you are clear about what you want and can give, you are then equipped to take steps to make your desires possible. With the commitment of keeping your heart center open and flowing, with intention, firm boundaries and spiritual discernment, discipline and persistence, you move to a new level of being that is necessary before you can soundly experiment with power differentials. Exploring and expanding such possibilities play out as a respect for differences in the context of equality – that of parity in the union of opposites in partnering with yourself.
Healing Alignment: Unity starts with self and extends to relationships and merging with others forming community . “As within, so Without!” We are social beings and staying connected to others is critical for good health. Social isolation, in fact, has been linked to high blood pressure, reduced immunity, and higher rates of dementia. So stay in touch–or get back in touch–with the family or friends who make you feel good. And push through any resistance to reaching out and forming new connections–it’s worth it!
To create right community based partnerships there must be unity with or community by clearing the disunity patterns at the cause of discord in the dance of life. The aberrations of society always reflect individual states of mind and together these form the social dis-eases that plague us. Individually, we each contribute to the collective malaise when divisive orientations and fractured thinking within the psyche are not processed.
Alisa Battaglia 