The Illusion of Fear and Addiction~ the Psyche of Limitation

The Illusion of Fear and Addiction~ the Psyche of Limitation

Fear has many faces, love has one”~Alisa Battaglia

By Alisa Battaglia, B.D., C. H.T., EFT, TH

FEAR occurs in the emotional realm of human consciousness. It is the dominant emotional energy permeating our planet at present time whose distortion, aggression and violence are all negative limitations implanted in the feeling-thought complex of which emotion is derived.  While this defensive mindset is no exception, it functions as a survival mechanism that proves to be suicidal operating in an exploitive mode of consciousness. Its presence is capable of reducing human beings into timid and frightened automatons insufficient to cope with life’s situations and stupefied by the problems of existence. Fear is the greatest enemy of self-understanding and the basic element that supports an addictive and compulsive mindset expressed in a myriad of unconstructive ways within our own lives and within our global paradigm.

Fear is the primary response that holds captive the human reigned by the five senses of the instinctual life from evolving towards the higher grades of intellectual and intuitive consciousness. Understanding the basis of psychological fear will help us meet with our instinctual fear nature that is part of our primal brains genetic DNA inherited from ancient human memory of past pain and grievances. The primal part of the brain that we have long inherited from animals in our human evolution whose biological conditioning in nature is based upon the ignorance of Universal Law and forces of nature and terror of the dark. It is the part of us reactive to threat that is meant to protect us and lend access to courage and directed will to carry out achievements that might normally have been impossible. However, when the stream of life is centered on this basic level it becomes dominated by the emotional responses of survival that protects and governs most of our habits.

Four psychological fears are borne out of the instincts for self-preservation. The sex instinct, which has its roots in the instinct of self-preservation, guarantees the progenitor of the species and abandons the psychological fear of loneliness of being unmated. The herd instinct governs us toward family and community, which abandon our fear of isolation. From the instinct of self-assertion we work to sustain our self and family from fear of death, victimhood or failure.  The instinct to enquire drives us forward to gain the depths of knowledge through experience and education for fear of not knowing or of being left behind. The instinctual survivalist fear package is a part of our DNA and can never be rid of, as it provides the vital foundation for all other facets of our development. We can, however, develop the necessary tools that will advance us in its integration within the gradient stages of evolving consciousness.

In order to extend beyond the initial stages of these instinctual fear vibrations that hold dominion over the non-mental animal kingdom and the emotionally reactive unthinking persons, we must be able to ascertain the dynamics that form the dysfunctional interplay between physical fear and psychological fear. In recognition of our deeply rooted psychological fears interconnected with our basic instinctual responses we can begin to examine the network of escapes, habits and addictions we have developed to pacify them. Unlike animals, the roots of psychological fear is a conditioned human response potently increased through the power of the mind and aggravated through the perpetuation of memory that draws upon accumulated experience, knowledge, tradition and time that creates the background from which we react. The combined effort of our conditionings and reliance of our instinctual senses to guide us through the everyday world makes us highly sensitive and uneasy to disarm.  Often, even something slight or someone instigating this indwelling impulse will trigger the primal guard whose relief of tension is an aggressive or violent response from that slight perturbation. This uncontrolled impulse is responsible for the reckless aggressive drivers that we experience on our highways everyday and for the jealous acts of passion that engage a protective and dominant response to threats against what we consider “our property.”

To grasp the basic nature of the personality governed first by instinct is to know that any situation whose actions are associated with defeat or borne of opposition than allowance, the lower mind structure will perceive it as a threat and will struggle to dominate. The power to dominate again is easily seen in an aggressive driver on a highway that speeds up and challenges passage irked by a slowing vehicle to change a lane or in the exit of the ramp. The struggle between functioning within our lower responses with the more evolved brain can be observed in the over-sensitized person whose emotional response pattern is towards hysteria, the energy is of a nervous quality with thoughts that run in an effusive manner and their dreams and visions are expanded filled with fear. The veneer for such an emotional response pattern would naturally be one of the extreme opposite of altercation whose defense mechanism is meant to keep any altercation from its core.

When we feel unsure the instinct of self-assertion clutches tightly for its survival and automates defensiveness. How often have we felt defensive by some looming insecurity or assassinated our characters or others because of it? If we did not get hooked into a defensive posture we observed two things. First, our instinctual need to take control by some form of response or action by striving for certainty of attitude and then to dominate it, which would be the directive power of the will upon another or plainly, manipulation by turning the situation around in blame or verbal abuse, or we would walk away defensively easily disguised. We can easily observe this emotional pattern in relationships whose unconscious instinctual fear attachment is expressed through jealousy. Jealousy is stirred into action when attention is moved away from us.  The response is assertiveness that seeks power over a loved one or friend as protectiveness through domination and pride of possession. Jealousy is a reaction for fear of loss that plugs into the illusion of security and whose distorted thinking is that if we have a person to ourselves and we can control them they won’t go away.

The same holds true for the fear of losing money whose emphasis of financial success dominates the competitive mind that there is not enough money for everybody and that in order to make money to live it must be taken from another in ruin to succeed. The motivation of this belief is structured at the most base level of our being whose fear of rejection by comparison values and survival is equally shared with all of humanity. These are the fears that teach us to say “No” to life for us to feel safe. They are the same fears that bring question to our worthiness of love and devotion and reject our deepest longings and dreams. These fears of limitation are the same limitations we have adapted to and have built our entire lives around.

Our vice for security makes for powerful illusions generated from a psychologically conditioned mind whose “fixed entity” our instinctual or lower mind relies upon to solve the problem of fear.  Through observation we see innumerous fears that infiltrate our minds that we believe to be true, in fact, our world is constructed of them and they are imbedded into our very code of existence creating conflict. We are always subjugating ourselves to patterns within a system whether they have been established by our selves or others creating immense stress that permeates and dominates our minds. An exhaustive amount of energy is dissipated by keeping control of the images of our selves and others in tact creating a falsity of internal order that never solves the insecurity that underlies it. When we seek to look deeply into how our self-image is justified and supported by this code of existence that is our conditioning, we see how fear has been imparted to us as an effective life tool having high value.  The only value that is worth honoring is the value that comes from honoring ourselves and sharing our gifts in whatever we do, the value of recognizing our worth no matter where we stand.

Moving through the fear

As we merge into our psychological fear brackets we no longer see it as a separate threat to us and we become our fear in motion as we walk through it trusting. Our mind begins to rejects the falsehoods that have been adapted to for generations and liberates us from its psychological attachment. We can now take control of the physical body and its reactions. The directional will of the higher mind frees our energy so that we are in a state of actuality than moot in fear of the unknown of what will be, or what was, riddled by the fear of the future or fear of the past.

We recognize that as long as we fight something we empower it and that when there is no renunciation of the mind reflected through the lower instinctual processes to the mind cognizance of the soul or Essential Self reflected through the higher brain states, there is no surrender to wholeness and we are left empty living life as a spiritual vagabond without fulfillment. Living fearfully is to live within an isolationist perspective where we shut out our Essential Self and therefore, render ourselves incompatible with wholeness that is love.  Trusting Spirit as ally removes the insidious fear while we come to understand the inherent Laws of the Universe that provides for us through all of life’s ups and downs, a path beneath our feet. When we recognize the mysterious force of energy, wisdom, patience and compassion operating in and through us we awaken from our illusion of fear – out of our minds jail to create our colorful dream of choice. Thereby, we transmute our state of fear holding the power to transform into a universal human and to co-create our present-future equal to our full potential. Living that choice changes our lives forever!

 In the poignant words of President Franklin D. Roosevelt, “In the future days, which we seek to make secure, we look forward to a world founded upon four essential human freedoms.  The first is freedom of speech and expression – everywhere in the world.  The second is freedom of every person to worship God in his own way – everywhere in the world.  The third is freedom from want…the fourth is freedom from fear.”

How can I tell if I am on the track of fear?

  • Associative memory of the past makes me anxious and resistant to the next step when I am confronted with it.
  • I have multiple reasons that are both logical and legitimate and circumstances that support my resistance in moving forward.
  • I experience frequent episodes of burn out or lethargy.

Questions to Consider

  1. If fear did not stop you, what might you be doing differently?
  2. How does it make you feel to walk out of fear’s prison into freedom, which means to open your heart to yourself-accepting the essence of you as divine?
  3. What does it mean to you to create life based on possibility, than on fear’s teachings?
  4. In what specific way might you eradicate a fear and replace it with trust in your intuition or inner wisdom?

I can integrate my fear by:  

  • Setting personal boundaries around how much time I spend serving others and by using agreements to let others know what my boundaries are.
  • Keeping boundaries firm develops inner trust and strength, which means that I must agree not abandon my inner self when I feel the pain of someone’s rejection because I hold a boundary that keeps him/her from getting his/her needs met in the moment.

Alisa Battaglia©2005-2019

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POLARITIES – Part 1


By Alisa Battaglia, B.D., C.H.T., EFT, TH

“That which appears is not always that which truly is; that which rends and disrupts the personality life is frequently the agent of release, if rightly apprehended; that which will emerge when the Forces of Light have penetrated the world of darkness, will demonstrate the nature of the undying human spirit.”                                                                                            ~Ponder on This, A Compilation

 Polarity refers to all the dualities that we are and experience that reflects the need of every human to extend and combine with the polar opposite to create growth. Duality is the relationship between two seemingly contradictory views or emotions, thoughts or dichotomous behaviors that forms a “hole” within the whole. While everything contains within it the essence of its opposite, duality is an illusion of the mind that prevents the integration of opposing parts. In reality, it simply refers to relationships between two bodies of consciousness.

Duality is the illusion that we think we are separate from our source of wholeness. We believe this because we struggle with so much opposition that it seems as if there are only two points of view and that our survival depends upon them. For example, the primary mass cleavage is in the connection between self and planet Earth and the extremes between plentitude and scarcity represented in the world, which is reflective of an inner opposition of acceptance and connection with all that is. In order to be healthy in life we must balance our tendencies with their opposing forces in nature by remaining flexible so that we may attune into the heart of the greater planetary rhythm that rides in tandem with the Kosmic forces of our Universe. When we make this heavenly connection, we are open to receive from the light above, the Will of Divine Grace and begin to function as an instrument along the evolutionary pathway that awakens into the Heart of the Divine Plan.

 When our opposites are brought into balance, we feel a sense of wholeness, unity and completion. With balance comes emotional integration and freedom from inner conflict of what we think, feel, say and do, which means that we have finally brought a sense of peace within the diversity of our nature. Integration of our lower bodies (physical, emotional and mental) means that we free ourselves from the patterned conditionings and ways of acting that are out of balance because they do not support our highest good. When we respond out of love in situations than react out of preprogrammed ways of living life we strengthen our core self. Living a conditioned life deplete of our true expression is a distortion of who we are and is therefore, out of balance with our essential self. This imbalance reflects within our body system, as all unbalanced thoughts and feelings do in acute or chronic situations.

Polarity also expresses as an opposing energy when we want to be other than our selves, different than we are. Here we project how we want to appear to the world. In extreme polarity, we are opposite our self in nature and assume a dominant energy expression or pattern that runs the personality counter to its souls urge. Take for example, the reflection of our selves perceived through a mirror. The effect that we see in the mirror is a reflection that is opposite or inverted. It does not project reality as it is, rather than reflect our perception that appears as reality. These false realities become our projecting patterns that move us through life totally unaware of everything because we are too caught up in ourselves to put the mirror down. Even though energy patterns of expression shift in different areas of our lives, they persist because the emotional body is ever malleable. While the pattern may appear to be subtle in one area of our life, it is often recognizable in another. When we are constantly postured in defense to guard our falsehoods we are unable to hear praise, constructive criticism, be open to affection and quality friendships because we reject taking chances towards fulfillment, of beauty in our lives, money or even to hear the message in our illness. Contractedness from life keeps our field closed from the ability to tap into the flowing circuit of prosperity emanating from the Universal Law of Balance.

The Universal Law of Balance concerns the generative cycle of giving and receiving that flows through the aggressive and receptive energies of the masculine and feminine principle as they fuse together to form the spontaneous compassionate heart. True giving is the expression of our value. It flows easily when we are in fullness rather than depletion.  For instance, we may give to others with obligation or calculation with the intent of receiving accolades or as a way to push us further along in our aspirations. However, this act is grasping because it clings to a need behind the act, which is often compulsory and fueled by an inner emptiness that stems from our feelings of unworthiness. Addictions of all kinds thrive on this attitude of neediness, which does not allow spontaneous giving to occur and therefore inhibits or short-circuits the generative cycle of giving and receiving.

 

Alisa Battaglia©2008-2018

Language of Heart

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The Heart is the Living Map to Guide us into the Heart of the Living Mother. ~Alisa Battaglia

Love is the flower for which love is the honey ~ Victor Hugo

The language of the Universe is reflected through the Soul in its perspective of a unified consciousness that is imbued with the eternal trinity of the good, the beautiful and the true. The seat of the soul is the heart and therefore, the language of Soul is the language of the Heart and also the language of Nature, since the soul is bonded into the Earth’s magnetic body inasmuch that Spirit is anchored into the Pleroma, the electrical force of creation at the heart of the Galactic Center. This means that the language of the soul communicates multi-dimensionally through the nexus of the heart in wholeness. According to the attribute of our heart is the reflective action, our measure of selflessness or selfishness. The variety of those interactions reflects the consciousness of our hearts’ that creates our experiences and how we communicate them to others. When there is the simple awareness that pain, trauma and fear (anger) keeps us from being totally involved in the now we begin to understand volition and right action. We recognize that what does not stand in love within us needs to be worked out with a mind connected in the Spirit in Nature’s Intelligent Love.

Right action or volition is the primary force of motivation that distinguishes the personality of the Soul from the personality desires of the masked or automated self. The motivation of Soul energy can be felt as a feeling-intellect within the heart, the impulse of compassion that moves us from the thick walls of selfishness into an ever-widening inclusiveness with life. It is from that place that we honestly attempt to be authentic as we are motivated through courage, inspiration and energy – the territory of the unfolding petals of the inner heart.

With an open heart it becomes easier to fight our selfishness with generosity and we begin to understand the language our Soul impulse seeks to communicate to us. When we listen to these subtle directive inner promptings, we nourish our Soul desires and trust its guidance more into our lives instead of fearing and going against our Essential Self. Our Soul interfaces with our personality vehicle the more we honor others and ourselves by following through on our commitments, contribute our skills and knowledge in a loving and patient way. As we accept our selves, learn tolerance and unconditional love we raise the vibrations of our energy body attracting to us those of similar attributes of heart and essentially energies of higher quality vibrations that resounds outwardly into the world.

To invoke spiritual energy to help us heal or to show us our path of purpose, we ground into the womb of Nature, center our mind and expand our hearts. Then we simply state our needs, dreams and desires, forgive and then let go of our attachments and preconceived process of how things should be done. We release the tentacles of our mind that wraps around things we identify with (our conditioning) so that we may let things happen and surrender the “how” to the miracle-producing Universe. We listen and move in rhythm with the Divine Heart of the Mother where love flows in Equipoise lovingly bringing calm, receptivity, aliveness and joy into our lives. The purpose of ensoulment is a life in aliveness, never angst, fear or derision.

Excerpts from The Essential Self, Cultivating the Sacred Feminine through Polarity Integration by Alisa Battaglia©2013

Published multiple times in Sibyl Magazine