Heart Centered Relationships

Intimate relationships nourish body, mind and spirit. They warm the soul and soften the heart. The quality of these relationships says a lot about the quality of our lives and our health, and reflects back to us what we need to learn-how to have more patience, be without judgment and essentially to love ourselves unconditionally. It is a mirror effect. We give what we are.

Some relationships are very difficult, while others flow effortlessly and perhaps some are a little of both. The level of conflict in each relationship is a good indicator as to how much inner work has been accomplished and what areas still need more attention individually, as a couple, in friendship, in physical family and in spiritual groups.

Heart centered relationships are an exchange of authentic feelings and sometimes it takes spewing a lot of feelings to get to that inner space of being okay with self to be okay with others. Oftentimes, we choose to suffer intensely and even put up with all sorts of abuses before we ever experience right relationship. The amount of abuse we allow from others is correlative to the amount of abuse we accept from ourselves, if not more. Loving ourselves is the key to authentically loving others.

No matter where we are, we can always strive for cooperation as an effortlessness and harmonious exchange of feelings, words, ideas, and actions that are complimentary and supportive to the spirit within us. Cooperation softens the blows of life instead of adding to harshness and unnecessary conflict.

In assessing our relationships, we can view them much in the same way we would our wardrobe. For instance, we pick and choose to keep what fits or is sentimental or meaningful. Equally, we let go of what no longer fits, is old, or out of style. Even though people are not to be discarded like clothes or traded in for a newer model, the point is to let go of those relationships that do not wear well on us because they are not fulfilling, cause us pain, are imbalanced, or even lack boundaries. Sometimes relationships require space for renewal and return building new love, but some never do. If they are dour and bring a dark light upon us, their color is not the right shade for right relationship.

Out of our circle of friends/acquaintances, we find people from our past that no longer have a place in our present for whatever reason, while others we may wish to know better. Therefore, we let go of those who no longer fit our current self, or reach out to spend more time with those we would like to share with, and strengthen current relationships that are fulfilling us.

Whoever these people are that we share our love and appreciation for always tell them how special they are. This gladdens everyone’s heart.

Fortified By the Flame

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Fortified By the Flame

By Alisa Battaglia

We enter the earth plane fortified by the waters of life. Their magnetic forces imprint into our bodies a stream of beliefs carried from the past, vows and future contracts. Our minds are impressionable and conditioned by the part of the world we live in with its religious and cultural mores. Education or the lack of resources partakes in creating an external image of self. These factors and more shape our world, but none actually authenticates who we really are. Our faulty beliefs about self and the world we live are outgrown and ineffective as we dawn into a new awareness, a new world.

The tensions of inner and outer conflict are felt more than ever before as the world we once knew crumbles around us. As the Earth body reacclimatizes and the human family enters a reorganization of mind erecting new ideas, innovation and opportunity, we are each called to enter into a new heart of being. Linking the mind and the heart is the healing balm for humanity. It is the gateway to the fiery corridor in the purifactory process. A radical cleansing that none can escape. To walk through the corridor we must claim our courage. The level of our courage or resistance is directly proportional to how much we are liberated.

Friction between two opposing forces creates fire. Fire is the element of purification. When we consciously choose to no longer oppose ourselves, we forgive and surrender to the fire. First, dissolution must occur to allow for healing reorganization. As we surrender to the embers layers of our resistance burn away – we let go of attachments to our faulty beliefs that bind us in fear and pain. Once the smoke has cleared, we feel a congruency in what we think, feel, say and do. Healing reorganization aligns us into a freer, more truthful expression of self.

With a spirit of commitment, persistence, and focused action, we are encouraged to deepen, to remove yet another layer of resistance. The fires of purification rage as the primal ego demonically thrashes in a final attempt for control in dissolving the illusions of the false self. A new face emerges – exuberant, self-accepting, creative, and abundant in compassion and love. Out of this purified space, the will of the personality and the Soul desires integrate into creative union.

With freedom to cultivate, the all-consuming sacred flame burns brighter within. Fortified by the flame we initiate into the connective force of love and compassion to serve world cause via the embodiment of our Greater Self.

Published in Sibyl Magazine, December 2008
Edited 2020
AlisaBattaglia©2020

Connecting the Dots between Our Inner and Outer Worlds

Connecting the Dots between Our Inner and Outer Worlds
By Alisa Battaglia

I gather information, watch videos, listen to talks, blogs, read articles, study research, have discussions and opinions about different burning issues acting out in today’s political theater. Oftentimes, these ideas of humankind are thought-provoking that often leads me to make connections between an issue or situation—connecting the dots so to speak, to perceive the larger framework in manifestation. These connective links of information that form a working composite are checked and balanced against spiritual insight to weave inner connections. Many times the results are perceived at first to be negative in that they have the capacity to produce a fear reaction. Yet, from a wholistic perspective there is a silver lining that if perceived rightly and acted upon with courage, can create rapid fundamental change individually and for the planet.

While this may be true, I do find that few can read information and assess it without taking it inside themselves. This lack of detachment does little to enable best choices in this changing economic arena we are all facing. In fact, it can cause an utter rebellion allowing the ego complex to take reign over the higher wisdom of the Soul. We live in discerning times now where we must exhibit extraordinary courage and action to preserve our freedom and liberties for All before they are dissolved to an increasingly controlling government.

Fundamental change only takes place in attitude. Both life affirming and life destroying polarities are playing out upon the 3-D world stage. There seems to be a vying for power, yet the powers in struggle over consciousness are of two different energies and intentions, one being creative and expansive seeking to connect and liberate the Soul, while the other is banal and contractive seeking to detach and imprison the human Soul into automaton. We each must decide which side of fence we choose to sit on and be true to our choice. Wavering, by default puts in alignment with those who choose peril over Peace.

No doubt, many of us will be struggling in some way and at different levels. It may be financially to maintain a roof over our head, having enough food in the cupboard or affording the essentials. While for others, it may be in relationships, with attachments/addictions, finding our purpose and engaging in time critical missions to a struggle between ego-mind and Soul dominance. Wherever we are, we must start from that point and move forward. Don’t look towards others to find your inner truth. We can be lead to information and wisdom to potentate awakening, but we cannot rely on another to give birth unto ourselves. This is a lone process on our path of awakening, however others often help us get there padding the terrain via their presence, attention, love and care. Love relationships offer us a unique gift in that they are a fast track to our evolutionary growth. Praise them, embrace them! Dig deeper!

May this season open us to new paradigms, creations, and new beginnings for stepping into our individual and collective Soul power. Let us become the highest possible expression of life and to fully realize ourselves – to find our wings, connect the inner dots to our outer path and fly. Our Soul mate is waiting! Our Soul flock is waiting! It’s a unitary endeavor! We are the ones we have been waiting for! Let us construct a new path that bridges the divide in both self, with our divine lover, humanity, Nature and God. Let us uplift together and allow peace to fill our hearts for rebirth into a new life that can generate a world of Peace, both inside and out.

AlisaBattaglia©2009-2020

The Vicious Cycle Of Addictive Consciousness

“No great improvements in the lot of mankind are possible, until a great change takes place in the fundamental constitution of their modes of thought.” -John Stuart Mill

“When will we stop rebelling against our emotional pain?” is a question we might ask our selves.  The amount of self-hatred we carry for our selves reflects our self-destructive host of addictions that shuts down of our sensory capacity asphyxiating our human life force.

When we deny the essence of our essential self and function from an ego-based perspective, we deny ourselves the gift of healing, of growth and of creation through our evolving senses. When we are bound in the fearful egos conflicts and contradictions we create a contagion of friction with our essential self or soul that diminishes our life force and our intuitive sense of the universe. We close off the capacity to listen to our essential self and the world creating sensory obstruction. This process of self-denial is what I have coined, “The Vicious Cycle of Addictive Consciousness.”

The primary focus of ego, as the gatekeeper of the physical body is survival at all costs and as such creates resistance to save us rather than hurt us. It believes that too much physical and/or emotional pain can cause both the body and it to die so that is uses fear as its primary form of communication and main tool to keep us alive. This modus operandi conflicts with the direct will of the soul creating sensory obstruction. On a physical level sensory obstruction impedes the flow of vital life energy congesting the body producing dis-ease. On an emotional level it results in inhibitions and exhibitions that cover the authenticity in our feeling nature. On the soul level it is the obscuration of intelligent response to incoming and outgoing energies that is a potent agent of cohesion and integration.

 Following the Law of Attraction that energy follows thought in the focus of our attention, whichever inner body is the strongest,  that is, our mental, physical, and emotional or Spiritual, controls the action of the human vehicle like an automaton on the physical plane. For example, if our thoughts dominate how much we lack love in life and are concerned with what we must do to get it, our point of focus would be held within the emotional realms of the astral plane. If our attention is towards personality integration with our Soul to gain psychological freedom and to bring harmony through conflict in our lives, our point of focus is upon the Spiritual realm.

 When we resist on any level, we deny and when we deny we avoid noticing something that might disturb us obscuring our emotional patterns.  We create avoidance by distracting our attention from the confusing welter of emotions that offer valuable insights into our emotional episodes often lingering from our unprocessed childhood wounds. The longer we obscure our emotional patterns, resisting the attention and release of our pain rising to conscious awareness, the more we come to believe our distortions. To the degree that we believe our distortions we become deluded and the more challenging it becomes to trust anything other than our habitually resistant responses. Imbued in the pattern of resistance we obstruct the release of our pain and become a slave to the habituated mind rather than the master of it. When we allow our selves to be enslaved by tendencies that constitute forms of dangerous appetites, we deny and our denial is proportionate to the amount of self-love we have for ourselves. The more we love ourselves our lives reflect awareness and the less we tolerate self-abuse and abuse from others, but when love is not proportionate and does not reflect awareness we get caught in habituation and accept abuse into our lives. Veiled under the soot of our delusion is the essence of our essential self that waits to be uncovered.

We alone must decide when it is time to end the inner preoccupation of our negative emotional experiences and their psychological sufferings. Acceptance alone intends a new beginning and by choosing what is emotionally and spiritually healthy we empower ourselves, although challenging at times, the results far outweigh the difficulty of the initial choice of action. There comes a point, however, in our human panentheism that is our natural urge to evolve, when the heralding of choice is realized, and yet, that choice may be to continue the temporary escape of our selves’ through a plethora of distraction obliterating our spiritual voice to the eventual liberation of physical death. Running away from conflict only perpetuates the vicious cycle of addictive consciousness. It does not erase it, but rather postpones issues that must be faced later. “When will we change? Now or later?” is the question we must ask our selves and a choice we each must make!

It takes the courage of a warrior to uncover and transform our negative qualities into a mind free from constraint. My experience is “resolve to go deeper and deeper, truth above kindness and resolution over comfort,” this is the dedication necessary for such a task. There is bravery in those who are courageous enough to express their pain, their imperfections and not to give up on themselves when they see the reigning of their negative qualities upon their lives. Being in touch with our truthfulness dispels the fear of avoidance to be open with our feelings and provides a pathway to look at our emotional reactions and patterns with the full presence of awareness that is normally obscured by habits of inattention. For instance, frustrated desires, suppressed resentments, anger, greed, hatred and delusion are all emotional energy patterns of inattention that thwarts the root of our malaise, which usurps our life force creating emotional pain and discomfort. Instead of turning a blind eye, we might anticipate a look at how much of our waking energy is spent creating a breeding ground for these powerful reactionary emotional forces.

To uncover the painful experiences that lurk behind our deep self-loathing, our consumed guilt, mental anguish, anger and physical pain that we seek to avoid is a signal to our body that something is amiss within us, that there is something to understand that needs investigation. We adapt this attitude; we see the message of our emotional blocks as an opportunity to understand our selves rather than convey it as a threat.  Even though from outside of ourselves, the reactionary effects of our clinging to patterns and habits are more familiar than the root of cause that resides tangled within us, we can stand back and see how our uncontrolled and uncoordinated emotional responses are effects to bring attention to soul growth. This gives us the ability to see them as opportunities that occur so that we may gradually evolve into a more coordinated, fused and blended personalitybringing awareness to the essence of our essential self.

The people with whom we surround ourselves, the quality of our thoughts, the intention behind our actions, the truth in our speech with that of our hearts is a mirror that reflects what we need to see about ourselves, in one another and what aspects within us that we are not at peace with. Essentially, what we need to bring change to. Giving our selves the freedom to challenge what needs shifting is a powerful agent for change and for the realization of our dreams. To be free in this sense is to venture seeing not only what is in the world, but what is possible for us!

 By Alisa Battaglia, B.D., C.H.T., EFT, TH

Alisa Battaglia©2012-2020

 

A Living Love

A Living Love

By Alisa Battaglia

“Let us not Love in word, neither in tongue; but in deed and in truth.” John 3:18

Permanently extending Valentines Day over the rest of our lives could transform us and furthermore, extend our love on a wider scale of Goodwill towards all sentient life that could certainly transform the world!

Let everyday be an expression of your love and gratitude for your loved ones and essential kindness towards others. There is no need to wait for the annual reminder of Valentine’s Day to authentically share your heart. Presents are a delightful way to enter the doorway of surprise, but remember it’s not really about buying cards, chocolate and gifts or spending money that is wiser spent elsewhere. It is rather time well spent with the one you love intimately bringing you closer together, in body, heart and Soul.

Love gives naught but itself and takes naught but from itself.
Love possesses not nor would it be possessed; For Love is sufficient unto Love.

When you love you should not say, “God is in my heart,” but rather, “I am in the heart of God.”
And think not you can direct the course of love, for love, if it finds you worthy directs your course.

Love has no desire but to fulfill itself. But if you love and must needs have desires, let these be your desires:
To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night.
To know the pain of too much tenderness.
To be wounded by your own understanding of love; and to bleed willingly and joyfully. To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving; To rest at the noon hour and mediate love’s ecstasy;
To return home at eventide with gratitude; And then to sleep with a prayer for the beloved in your heart and a song of praise upon your lips.”

~Kahlil Gibran

Alisa Battaglia©February 2007-2020   

Responding to Your Clarion Call

 

Responding to Your Clarion Call

Those who have ears, may they hear.”

 By Alisa Battaglia

The energetic impulse of 2020 is about taking action in our lives with enthusiasm while standing at the edge of a precipice. It is about initiative that is provoked from deep within to awaken us in some way-to shatter the false security beneath our feet. The quickening message may come from our intuition, inspiration or the stark reality of our situation, through a tragedy of some sort, the loss of a job or even threatened health. Whatever sphere of life that requires attentive action, the arising impulse from within us is about the need to make visible alterations in and out side ourselves. For many, this wake-up call is felt as an unwelcome intrusion disturbing the safe harbor of our mechanical ways, which requires letting go of foundations previously counted upon. Here we are shown where we have given our power away, as no form can seduce us, use us, or betray us without our permission and cooperation. Discernment is the faculty we use to determine the true nature of any image or situation.

Mastering our lives is about finding the balance point between our need to control and the call to entirely surrender unto the wisdom of our Essential Self, as Soul or Spirit. For some this may be about trusting in the movement of Spirit and putting “knowing,”- the Spirit of Truth into action, while for others there may be a need to confront deeply buried fear of the power that is their Essence. Still, some may be a need to cultivate the character to be less critical and more accepting, or a relationship may demand new ways of relating. The inner call, too, may be to implement new ideas into a project, such as writing a book or changing an avocation into a vocation, in order to serve in joy. Whatever the need, the true wisdom of our experience is showing us the power of choice, that we can choose love and trust over fear and doubt.

Too often, when the clarion call comes we ignore our internal signals of closing and opening doors to change. We resist that which seeks new direction and grasp to our myriad attachments, ways of thinking and doing in fear of what a life of meaning and purpose may demand of us. Sometimes we may need to say “No” to a potential door opener, which is a valid choice when the timing is not ripe when instead what may be required of us is more discipline, more patience and a deeper trust that the Universe is essentially supportive. However, when we refuse all signals to align our lives in rhythm with Source and let fear override a deeper connection with our Essence, we bifurcate and move against ourselves that carries even more consequences. This is when the Universe, through the Magnetic Law of Attraction and the greater wisdom of our Soul intercedes thus, designing the forms of loss we encounter meant to pull us onto a path of illumination. Hence, the greater our attachments the more painfully we experience loss.

The cyclic energy of Earth through the first quarter of the new year calls us to take hold of the Universe’s positive energy to guide us into action, to make choices-to reset our goals, clear space to embrace the new and to honor the expression of our inner calling with courage and commitment. This enlivening energy asks us to accept responsibility, to leave our comfortable past and abandon our imagined futures, reconcile and transcend, as Truth arises from within. When we say “Yes,” to life we feel a quickening within our hearts, we breathe deeply, and embrace everything with flexibility to the changes life presents to us through synchronicity and golden opportunity. We reap rich rewards when we believe enough in our selves to pursue our inner call and invite the dialog of love into everything. Fostering a support system helps to ground our creative energies and acts to lend clear vision of what we want and where we are going that then makes us accountable in fulfilling our goals.

If nothing else, remember this. “The Master of Divine Sovereignty” is inside each and every one of us. Let choice allow its presence to occupy the place of authority in each of our experiences. Surrender unto its guide every thought, word and action to produce a sense of security, a strong foundation far beyond anything previously known. Let the powerful transformative Saturnian energies of Capricorn help stave off our personal attachments to stories, experiences, and fears. Let it be about how each embrace their Soul’s authority and step into the lineage of Light that we are. This is my wish for us all!”

In Sovereignty,
Rev. Alisa Battaglia

Alisa Battaglia©2006-2020

The Law of Spiritual Approach ~ Stairway to the Soul & Inner Revelation

….”Spiritual” refers not only to experiences traditionally considered religious, but to all states of awareness, all the human functions and activities which have as the common denominator the possession of values higher than average—values such as the ethical, the aesthetic, the heroic, the humanitarian, and the altruistic. ~ Robert Assagioli, Synthesis—The Realization of the Self


The Law of Spiritual Approach governs the basic impulse to push forward to create and live in a more harmonious and spiritually anchored world. In the collective urge for self-betterment those who stand in their own truth have set aside personal agendas and place the “highest and best good for the human race as a whole” in the forefront of any other focus. This means that separatist dogmas of exclusivity are replaced with spiritual insights into the underlying Laws and Principles of inclusive awareness. Inclusive awareness begins with an understanding of those Laws if we are to be successful in our intentional creations. Many are just learning to apply these laws in their daily lives, while many of us are actively utilizing the laws to cause the flow of experience to change world direction into higher vibration.

Never before has there been greater spiritual expression insofar as the pursuit of our spiritual aspirations and never so many technologies, methodologies and practices to help us awaken our intuitive faculties. Inasmuch, there are also forces that suppress our aspirations and free technologies available that could liberate us from dependence on so many levels. Such forces purposely overlay the true situation with false and distorted representations to confuse and promote fear. The ignorant, confused and frightened masses are easy to control. In fact, the sycophant banks on the masses never waking up as they provide every distraction to keep focus on the outer life and attention away from cultivating the beauty of ones inner jewel.

We can break through the ceiling and climb out of the box of limitation and discover that the true “purpose of conscious awareness is expansion of wisdom through experiencing knowledge to that higher level. The creation of conscious awareness is only possible through the expansive process of creative thought focused to magnify the originating energy source.”[1] The struggle and perseverance of World Teachers have left behind a scaffold to help us climb out of the box and expand beyond the confines of our conditioning.

For those who are awake and those awakening from transgenerational conditioning that is not based upon authentic reality, but a preconstructed reality (PATRIX) that has been imposed for thousands of years, we wonder how we can break from its spell to create a new world paradigm? For any system of control to become successful there needs to be consensus, which means that humanity has agreed to accept our current reality, good, bad or indifferent. The plan is self-perpetuated by humanity itself. Thankfully, self–aware consciousness is not powerless. Realities can change when there is understanding of how Universal Law operates. However, such a directional change towards higher values inevitably entails a period of chaos within the established current. This is the real challenge inasmuch that it is innate to walk the path of least resistance—to accept the status quo even when the status quo does not serve freedom. Yet, in order to change the momentum there must be a 180-degree focal shift in order to divert the current direction of usurpation—that is the completion of the plan for enslavement. Wherever we are at within the evolutionary impulse of life, it moves forward waiting for no one or thing. So, we either wake up or we ALL suffer the consequences of our self-denial.

With so many stages of consciousness, how can we come into agreement as how to change the current world direction?  There needs to be no formal agreement. All that is necessary is a desire to change/end the existing paradigm. If in fact we ALL came into united agreement (focus) the collective vibration would be high enough to disintegrate the current experience. We have work to do.

There are four vital principles to guide our way:

  1. The Law of Magnetic Appeal: Like magnetizes like.
  2. The Law of Deliberate Intent: What is intended and held resolutely within thought, word & deed manifests.
  3. The Law of Allowance: Allowing what is intended to manifest while using the observer mode to be awake and aware while continuing to hold the focus without being rigid as to the outcome. (Allowing thought to think).
  4. The Law of Balance: Allowing the first three laws and focusing within the present moment.

The Laws are immutable and follow the path of least resistance. Abide in its rhythm for harmony and accordance with the greater spiritual realties of our planetary inheritance.

Alisa Battaglia© 2009-2019

WE THE PEOPLE ~ A Collective Energy Field

WE THE PEOPLE
A Collective Energy Field

By Alisa Battaglia

 From the heart of creation emanates a holographic force field that underlies the fabric of existence in its many dimensional levels.  It connects all life that has ever been, is, and of the future and is the pathway back to Source. This force is so great and will always prevail over of the seeming—the circumstances that we perceive as suffering, devastation, and war that is a thread in the divisive seam of time, an occurring part in the whole system of creation that we call reality.

The glue that holds this One Life together is LOVE. Love is the Master Grid that ensures the appropriate distribution of life-force energy that provides the templates needed for material creation, and is the physicalized expression of the sacred code of creation itself. Love is the blueprint of consciousness expressed in harmonic form. The Love principle is an example of feminine spiritual heart energy or compassion held within and completely embodied in the physicality and lived as that light essence.

Each of us has a force field around us—a personal grid that connects us to the Unity Grid, the Earth Grid and the Mass Consciousness Grid. Tapping into a particular grid will reveal its particular expression.

The current mass consciousness grid or template misuses spiritual masculine force in the expression of life energy. Resonating within this collective energy field is how we have a shared experience on the planet. There is no wonder that its lower vibration provides the channel way to spread divisiveness through fear, pain, stagnation, war, poverty, hunger, disease and victimhood.

There are myriad belief structures or programs that are not necessarily true or provide the “only” alternative to the way life must be. We all have the same potential within us to live our higher Self—to embody a new awareness. To be fully aware in the body as indwelling souls that operates at a higher reality of ideals rather than standards. Embodying the awareness, this knowing as that, is the journey of our existence. The biggest illusion that we must disengage from —to make the break from the mass conscious survivalist grid to the Master Grid of Unity Consciousness —is the illusion of separation. We are all divinely interconnected.

Since we each are connected to the Master Grid we, too can live as an expression of the sublime. We can choose which field of expression to live, move and have our being. Ultimate reality states that we are Love.

Alisa Battaglia© 2008-2019

Forgiveness~ Disconnecting from the Past

Forgiveness
Disconnecting from the Past
By Alisa Battaglia

When we have surrendered our expectations, softened our hearts and found the gift in our wounding experiences we are ready to activate the heart through forgiveness. Forgiveness may not be easy, but it will make us feel better by freeing our negativity and increasing our self control. The role of forgiveness is essential in our healing passage because it disconnects us from the grippings of the past and gives us confidence to get through other tough situations without harboring resentment, panicking or losing control. Forgiving does not mean that we have to forget what was done to us, or suddenly befriend or approve of someone who has trespassed against us. It does mean that we release our aggressors of any lingering resentments and also to forgive ourselves from mis-takes so that we may finally move forward to be wholly present in our lives.

As we evolve and develop a greater depth of understanding there is a natural willingness to engage in forgiveness.  The very act of forgiveness heals, constructs bridges and breaks down barriers in building right relationships in families, groups, communities, nations and humanity—the world of the soul.  It is understood that without forgiveness there can be no authentic relationships unless separative and narrow thinking are relinquished.

Forgiveness is not only a charitable act or benevolent gesture that we bestow or withhold at times. True forgiveness is actually an act that we do for ourselves to let go of the burden that hurt brings when we hold on. For example, we first experience a transgression as a loss in peace, happiness and separation that causes us to build defenses to keep a person out of our lives. Holding such a burden usurps our vital energy and we suffer in myriad ways. When we love ourselves we do what we need to do to liberate ourselves from the bondage of feeling separate, otherwise we trap ourselves in the ignorance that we are NOT from the same One Life and Source and we trespass against ourselves. True forgiveness helps to bind the spiritual realms ever closer to humanity. It is the recognition of our Oneness and the remembrance of our True Self as immortal spirit.

Both religious and psychological traditions have long extolled the virtues of forgiveness in the promotion of psychological, relationship and physical health. In fact, research studies conducted through the Stanford Forgiveness Projects have shown forgiveness to reduce anger, hurt, depression and stress, which leads to greater feelings of optimism, hope, compassion and self confidence. Holding onto blame, judgment and expectation keeps our wounds open, while only forgiveness heals.

The four stages of forgiveness found in Clarissa Pinkola-Estes’s book, “Women who Run with the Wolves” is an alchemical recipe that catharts us through the forgiveness process. It provides an actual capacity to disconnect from the object of our attention imbuing universal wisdom.

  • to forego- to leave it alone
  • to forebear – to abstain from punishing
  • to forget – to aver from memory, to refuse to dwell
  • to forgive – to abandon the debt

What will you forgive in yourself today?

Alisa Battaglia©2010-2019

All of Life is in Polarity

All of Life is in Polarity
By Alisa Battaglia

All of life is in polarity-that is, in relationship to its opposite or polar energy and our level of connectivity in relation to it. For instance, our relationship in opposition to the social structures set into place. The disconnection or division comes from having to labor our living at the expense of our creative soul urge. Life demands that we work and pay taxes for our keep and yet this causes a drain on our life force creating exhaustion, dis-ease and aberrations. The balance, of course, between the two polarities would be to find right livelihood…in so many terms, to “Live our Bliss.”

The second opposition that we struggle with is our relationship to our environment. With the first opposition in concretization, there is little time for connection with nature outside office buildings. In cars, we come and go to the workplace, the mall, grocery stores and so on. We pass by what is left of nature around us. We are disconnected because there is no real connection to the environment. This lack of connectivity to nature causes us to disengage from vital life preserving forces that through connection would align us by default to the greater rhythm of our planetary body and the Kosmic circuit in which it resides. Harmonizing with nature whether by walking through a park, gardening, or even honoring the moons monthly cycles puts us in touch with the greater rhythm that has become so elusive in our busy lives.

The polarity continues as we move within because what we see that is not right in society is actually a reflection of the collective mindset in a particular area. This points us in the direction of looking at that which is not right within us. Inner conflict runs between extremes. On one end of the polarity spectrum there is total withdrawal expressed as narcissism in the personality complex. The narcissistic defense mechanism is one that detaches emotions from intimate forms of connectivity with a need to control life, people and circumstances. Functioning from the head, the focus is most often on material gain or position while the emotions are withdrawn from the needs of self and others. Sensitivity and inner sight of the authentic nature is lost and life is superficial and myopic. However, for every control freak there is a counterpart to play out the role of victimhood or supplicant. This is best expressed in the co-dependent and addictive mindset whose intense emotional grasping to things, people and circumstances causes them to lose sight of their deepest needs and desires as a human being. Again with the focus powered onto the object of ones attention-things, people, drugs and alcohol, money and gambling, clothes and glamour, thoughts, and so on, the fulfillment of the immediate need causes the mind to skim only the surface of self, others and life. Both expressions, one overly mental and one emotional, produce disjointed human beings. When time is not taken to examine what is right and not right within us, we live miserable, lonely and loveless lives. Passion for life’s gifts, mysteries or energy to investigate them is lost, as life energy is disconnected from the Kosmos, nature and self…and slowly the spirit within is asphyxiated from lack of connection to the wellspring of life. The spirit within is the nexus of our existence – it is the force that animates our body, the Promethian Spark that gives life and substance to an otherwise lifeless body.

The next polarity and perhaps the most vital, as it moves to the very core of our existence is between the human being in relation to spirit – the polarity between resistance to living our inner light and fully embracing our divinity. The question is “Who are you in relationship to this borrowed body whose name you call yourself?” “Are you the body or the dweller within the body?” This apparent disconnection to the source of our being is the very peril that binds us from liberation. Our mental constraints take the lead setting parameters when the soul is timeless and without human boundary. The soul’s limitless space reflects the potential of our human capacity. Our connection to the source of our divinity is the stuff that all of life is made. In this space or void, the boundaryless fairway of existence is the opposite spectrum of our human struggle – the brain that divides, bifurcates, separates and sections off with an attachment to ways of perceiving and living. Finally, the polarity of the soul in relation to Spirit – between the souls urge to immerse back into Sources spiraling well of energy as One Life or attachment to the souls sheath.

In all these levels of connectivity and separateness are layers and layers of differentiation between them. The balance point always meets at the neutral middle – the center path of heart where there is acceptance in the reflection of the other. It is the point of light within us that is wise, creative, joyful and loving. This sacred point of light that is the true self within is the initiator between extremes, the conjoiner of opposites – the multitude of polarities that exists on this plane. When we arise from the heart of neutrality, the true center of reality we act as the center point between Heaven and Earth.