“There is only one relationship: you with you.
When you get that one right you can attract all the other relationships you choose.” ~The Group
It is all about you. You with you. The vibrational relationship between the inner authentic you, source creation the inner male and female creative spiritual energies, with the outer you as the personality mask you wear in the world. The distance between the two – the authentic self and the mask, is the amount of happiness or discord in your life. Feelings are ever the barometer to measure your alignment along that continuum. The goal is to close the distance in the gap, to synthesize all expressions into a functioning unit of inner organization that is an authentic expression of the essential Self and then lose your self as that identity into Being. In that Being, reflect that Love to others in a beautiful way to the point that they can see their best in you.
As energy beings whatever is done, is done to self first. Within the variances of the human collective, there are some that have more work to do than others in way of release and development, but no matter where you are in life, inner cultivation is open to you because even you can love yourself a little more. Since the kind of love you have for yourself is what you most want from another, it is wise to love and appreciate self first in order to magnetize a partner who loves and appreciates you. But, first you must partner with yourself.
In the self loving process you must seek to reorient your perceptions regarding yourself and the male/female in truth, rather than in myth. This calls for a release in attachments of co-dependencies; addictions and any hindering vestiges of the past; the embracing of your inner masculine and feminine selves; and finally a developed sense of control over physical impulses (self-discipline) and emotional reactivity(self-containment) before you can ever attempt to have a healthy soul conscious relationship with another person on an intimate level. A coherent identity is the requisite for self-sovereignty – mastering the self by correcting our errors – our misalignments. These are requisites that comprise an immutable process that flows and gains momentum when your heart is open. A receptive heart cannot occur until you embrace yourself wholeheartedly of everything that you feel, that you are and are not. This enables you to know what you can legitimately give and what you want from others. You are the tableau upon which your desires grow.
When you are clear about what you want and can give, you are then equipped to take steps to make your desires possible. With the commitment of keeping your heart center open and flowing, with intention, firm boundaries and spiritual discernment, discipline and persistence, you move to a new level of being that is necessary before you can soundly experiment with power differentials. Exploring and expanding such possibilities play out as a respect for differences in the context of equality – that of parity in the union of opposites in partnering with yourself.
Healing Alignment: Unity starts with self and extends to relationships and merging with others forming community . “As within, so Without!” We are social beings and staying connected to others is critical for good health. Social isolation, in fact, has been linked to high blood pressure, reduced immunity, and higher rates of dementia. So stay in touch–or get back in touch–with the family or friends who make you feel good. And push through any resistance to reaching out and forming new connections–it’s worth it!
To create right community based partnerships there must be unity with or community by clearing the disunity patterns at the cause of discord in the dance of life. The aberrations of society always reflect individual states of mind and together these form the social dis-eases that plague us. Individually, we each contribute to the collective malaise when divisive orientations and fractured thinking within the psyche are not processed.